When Instincts Collide  

Decoding self-pres, social & sexual in relationships: pairings, common ruptures, practical repairs

Type matters. But in relationships, instinct runs the show. This 3-hour live workshop unpacks how self-preservation, social, and sexual (one-to-one) instincts—and their stackings—interact in love and family dynamics. You’ll see why some pairings feel effortless and others feel like constant near-misses, and you’ll leave with specific tools that fit your pairing instead of generic advice. We’ll also briefly weave in classic character styles (oral, psychopathic, masochistic) to explain stress patterns and defenses.

YOU’LL LEARN

• The three instincts explained clearly—and their stacking combinations

• How each stacking signals safety, bids for connection, and asserts boundaries

• The predictable strengths, sensitivities, and flashpoints for each instinctual pairing

• How the three centers of intelligence influence relational dynamics and instinctual stacking.

• Repair strategies that match your pairing (what to do / what not to do)

• How character style can intensify or soften instinct behavior under stress

• Practices for conflict and reconnection

WHO IS IT FOR

Individuals, couples, and practitioners. Singles welcome—bring past patterns and current questions.

LIMIT 35 PARTICIPANTS

FORMAT AND RESOURCES

• Live on Zoom [Saturday, December 15th • 11:00am–2:00pm CT]

• Replay available for 30 days

• Downloadable Instinct Pairings Quick-Guide (PDF)

• Live Q&A (only 35 seats for depth)

TUITION

• Very Early Bird: Mon Oct 27 – Fri Nov 7

  Price: $59

• Early Bird: Sat Nov 8 – Fri Dec 5

  Price: $69

• Standard: Sat Dec 6 – Mon Dec 15

  Price: $89

ABOUT YOUR GUIDES

Sterlin Mosley, PhD and Aaron Addonizio, MHR integrate Enneagram depth psychology with instinct theory, somatic awareness, and real-world relationship work. Their teaching blends clarity, compassion, and tools you can use the same day.

FAQ

Do I need to be sure of my type? Helpful, not required. We’ll focus on instincts and will help you spot your stacking live.

Is this only for romantic relationships? No. We cover partner, family, professional, and close-friend dynamics.

Will you cover all 36 stacking combinations? Yes, we’ll look at what is amplified, diminished and canceled out and the common problems with the different combinations.

Will you discuss the primary type or tritype? We will discuss how the centers of intelligence (head, heart, and gut) influence relational dynamics.

Replay? Yes—available for 30 days.

Refunds? No, if you can’t attend, the replay is included.